Relationship....Love....Marriage...Compromise!!! Is the journey really worth it?

Not an expert on the subject...limited understanding...seeing experiences of people around!

Well an interrogative title for the blog ...I would not call it pessimistic/cynical! When you are 30 and a woman and in India and SINGLE, this is the most common question everyone would like to ask you..."So when do you plan to tie the knot?"; "When is someone getting lucky/unlucky?"; "When is the d-day?"...etc etc...By 30 you have gained enough experience to form strong opinions about terms like relationships, love and marriages and so have I!! And thus the question "Is it really worth it?"

If the sample survey method of research is correct, then my analysis should be close. Fortunately/unfortunately I have not come across very happy married couples in the true sense. The love that they claim to share or have in their initial days somehow just keeps fading away and even more in my age bracket generation. I see most of the people sticking around for the sake of their kids and that's undoubtedly a very very genuine & pure love...no denials! Another reason is to avoid the entire legal complication may be or the so called societal pressure! Each individual starts looking for his/her own identity/happiness I guess after the initial lovey dovey phase is over :-). These days for men I feel, they want to get married for the feeling of future security, for the love of coming back home to someone, for the sake of their family and likes. But after their marriage, they still wanna maintain their bachelor lifestyle. And women, only & only financial security! (Smiling) I am not too surprised to see more of men frenz getting married and women still waiting for their imaginary "Mr Right" :-). Some smart ones do manage to be happy and keep their spouse happy...(don't ask me how) and overall it's a nice happy life. But I am not too sure if I wanna be one of them (Read between lines)......

I donno how many of these married people can keep their hands on their hearts and answer honestly if they are genuinely happy being married. If they did, lives of we SINGLES can get easier, at least the dilemma of "to do or not to do" ;-)

Random thoughts...day to day experience!!

The industry I operate in & my current role gives me a lot of opportunities to meet some really high caliber successful individuals who are either business heads or CEOs at their companies and at times entrepreneurs running the entire show consistently & successfully. There is a commonality that I have observed meeting all these people. The topmost and the one that always impresses me is the humility! And it impresses me even more, when I think about the individuals at the middle management level (lets talk about that later). Humility, to me, is a clear differentiator when two people are equally qualified and successful. Every success, I feel, is a combination of hard work, luck & God’s grace. Till the time we are grounded to these facts, we shall remain grateful & humble. And I think most of these successful people do realize that. It could be the reflection of having achieved what they wanted to, or the feeling of being secured after reaching at a particular level or it could simply be the realization of efforts that went in to make it BIG!


What amazes me is the middle management or individuals in my age bracket. Just making a few bucks extra than your B-school peers is not success…getting paid for a job which ten more people can do equally well is not success…8-10 years of working and the attitude, sorry arrogance, of knowing everything!! There is a long way to go I feel...atleast for myself! The world is getting so competitive. I see budding entrepreneurs at the age of 24-25 now…and what confidence! That’s something to talk about…having the guts to leave a well paying job and start your own venture from scratch is something to boast about. Having success or failure at that venture honestly comes second! I take my inspiration from these people honestly and I feel truly blessed to have them around.

4th Nov...

It's the date today that made me log on to my blog...Coz it made me realise that another month to go for my first ever International Marathon....4th Dec Standard Chartered Singapore Marathon. Yes, it's equally exciting as it sounds trust me!:-))))))...Ofcourse a runner would relate or connect to this 'high' better! Running is addictive....and I am passionate about it now! Imagine your passion makes you look toned, fit and allows you to eat your heart out! Wow...trust me being a woman, "correction: 'foodie' woman ;-)", I can tell ya it feels like a blessing...No wonder m addcited to it now!

Amazes me that an year back I struggled to ran even a mile...I carried a 'kala paani' sazza look on my face I guess...I wish my friend captured my first run in a video clip...Nevertheless, he loves acting that out whenever given a chance ;-). So its been an interesting transition for me in last 1 year. Thanks to my 'work-out' frenz and a good training! I aspire to run 2 long distance this year! Singapore Stan C Half & Amchi Mumbai Stan C full....I am really looking forward for the full marathon. It's a bigger challenge any day and I guess thats the biggest thrill about it!

Can write pages about running, fitness, work out and all the related myths trust me....For now, will end my blog here only :-)...Happy Reading & Happy Running to me :-) (Big task this weekend...gotta run 35 km most probably!)