Not an expert on the subject...limited understanding...seeing experiences of people around!
Well an interrogative title for the blog ...I would not call it pessimistic/cynical! When you are 30 and a woman and in India and SINGLE, this is the most common question everyone would like to ask you..."So when do you plan to tie the knot?"; "When is someone getting lucky/unlucky?"; "When is the d-day?"...etc etc...By 30 you have gained enough experience to form strong opinions about terms like relationships, love and marriages and so have I!! And thus the question "Is it really worth it?"
If the sample survey method of research is correct, then my analysis should be close. Fortunately/unfortunately I have not come across very happy married couples in the true sense. The love that they claim to share or have in their initial days somehow just keeps fading away and even more in my age bracket generation. I see most of the people sticking around for the sake of their kids and that's undoubtedly a very very genuine & pure love...no denials! Another reason is to avoid the entire legal complication may be or the so called societal pressure! Each individual starts looking for his/her own identity/happiness I guess after the initial lovey dovey phase is over :-). These days for men I feel, they want to get married for the feeling of future security, for the love of coming back home to someone, for the sake of their family and likes. But after their marriage, they still wanna maintain their bachelor lifestyle. And women, only & only financial security! (Smiling) I am not too surprised to see more of men frenz getting married and women still waiting for their imaginary "Mr Right" :-). Some smart ones do manage to be happy and keep their spouse happy...(don't ask me how) and overall it's a nice happy life. But I am not too sure if I wanna be one of them (Read between lines)......
I donno how many of these married people can keep their hands on their hearts and answer honestly if they are genuinely happy being married. If they did, lives of we SINGLES can get easier, at least the dilemma of "to do or not to do" ;-)
